Lesbian Short Film: Consequences

Remember that lesbian short film by the wonderfully talented Dani van Herk we introduced you to? (If you don't, click HERE!)

Well, Dani specializes in lesbian short films, and here we have another one for you to view!

This one is slightly longer and brand new, but the lesbian drama and the hot Australian accents remain.

Check it out!

Up & Coming LGBT Music: Tunde Olaniran

We've got some awesome new music here for you.

Meet Tunde Olaniran, the American born, half-Nigerian bundle of awesome.

Tunde describes his music as modern Motown with a twist of Euro-electronica and all the soul of Nigerian funk.

Sounds crazy?

Check out how awesome his single "Brown Boy" is. Trust me, it's a grower!

Lesbian Advice #2: Am I Transgender?

The month is February, which means it's time for a new Lesbian Advice!

Let's do this.

Disclaimer: This advice column is completely confidential - all questions are anonymous and the author will never reveal an inquirer's identity. All Things Lesbian and its contributors are not responsible for the personal interpretation of any advice given. Advice written here is the opinion and suggestion of the author, and the decision on whether to take said advice is completely down to the individual reader. We're not professionals - we're simply here trying to make things a little easier for you. Enjoy!

Question 1: A Trio of Troubles.

Q: I have 3 questions that I need some advice on. Help? - JE

1) How do you know that you are a lesbian?

A: Have you ever sat around with your girlfriends while they talk about guys and not felt comfortable? Maybe you stared at that cute girl's butt for too long in the grocery store. When you think about sex, do you picture yourself with a man or a woman?

Thinking about these questions may be one step closer to you figuring it out. Discovering your sexuality can be different for everyone, but if you find yourself being attracted to girls it's possibly time that you explore that. You might adventure out there and try to date/have sex with/kiss a woman and absolutely hate it. And that's totally fine! Remember there is a huge spectrum of sexual orientations out there. Figuring out what you like best is part of the fun! And in the end if you realize you're not gay, there's nothing wrong with that either. Explore your surroundings.

2) How do you know the straight lady you are in love with can accept you?

A: The problem with this one is, you can't be sure. Maybe subtly dropping the idea of homosexuality into conversation would be beneficial here; see if she's okay with gay people, whether she supports same-sex marriage, heck, even ask if she thinks Brittana are a cute couple. Get creative, and if in the end she doesn't accept you, she's simply not worth your time.

3) Is it possible for an Asian to be with a Caucasian?

A: I find it incredibly sad that some people still need to ask these sorts of questions. Love is not based on race, it's based on emotions. Remember that it is okay for anyone of any race, gender or sexual orientation to be with anyone they like. Personal traits should not matter.

Question 2: Am I A Man Trapped Inside a Woman's Body?

Q: How can I tell if I am not just a man trapped inside a woman's body vs a lesbian? I am attracted to women, and have dated a few of them, but part of me also acts a bit masculine and I love the feeling when wielding a dildo and I make love to my partner. It actually feels a bit more natural than without it. - A

A: I understand your dilemma here. Personally, I love the feeling of fucking a girl while wearing a strap-on, but I know deep inside that I am female. Although your gender should not be anyone else's business, it can be taunting when faced with such questions as these.

It sounds to me like you could do with some soul-searching. Do you feel like a woman? Or do you feel more comfortable as a man? It's also important to remember that you don't need to fit into society's gender binary system. Maybe you feel both male and female, and there's totally nothing wrong with that. 

There is a great information booklet you can read for free online from the Vancouver Coastal Health service. Click HERE and you may be a little closer to understanding who you feel you truly are. (And whoever that person turns out to be, remember that person is awesome!)

Question 3: I Thought I Was Straight!

Q: I was at a Valentine's Day party this week and I started to chat up a nice woman. By the end of the night, she had charmed her way back to my bedroom. We got there - a little tipsy! - and I woke up in the morning thinking the night before had been a dream. When I rolled over, I saw her lying naked in my bed and it all came flooding back to me. 

I had always thought I was straight and I never do one-night stands. I feel like my world has been turned upside-down; I thought I had to be in a committed to relationship to have sex with someone. I feel a little dirty and that I have let myself down a little, but I also feel some emotion or connection I've never experienced before. It's weird and scary, but I kind of like it. I thought because she'd given me a real orgasm (something I'd never felt before) it could be clouding my judgment. Any advice on this would be great!* - EB

A: I definitely understand why this would be a scary time for you. When you realize maybe you weren't who you thought you were, an identity crisis is completely normal.

There are two sides to this. Maybe you are straight. Maybe this was a one-time thing and the booze got a little too much for your self-control. However, maybe you do like women. Maybe you're bisexual, maybe you're gay. Exploring yourself and experimenting may be your answer here. Maybe try kissing a girl or chatting to a girl when you're sober, and see where it takes you and how you feel about it.

Also, you should really not think of yourself as "dirty" because you had a one night stand. Those kinds of thoughts are all related to slut shaming and oppressing women's sexual desires. If you want to have sex, go have sex! Of course you should always be safe about it, but if you want it, there is no one that can tell you you shouldn't be doing it. Explore your sexual fluidity while you explore what you like in the bedroom. And if you want to go back to only having sex in committed relationships, that's completely fine too! Just do what you feel is best for you. Hope that helps!

*This question has been edited due to length and structure.

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Lesbian Favourite Jennifer Beals Set to Return to TV!

Great news!... and bad news.

The good news: Jennifer Beals is set to return to your television screen! Eek!

The bad news: The new series she'll be starring in is run by *gulp* The L Word creator, Ilene Chaiken.

(Picture credit: Zimbio.com)

If you're a Beals fan, you'll know she played the marvellous, sassy, badass, Bette Porter in The L Word and she's been on the big and small screens since the 80s, her big break being the camp yet awesome dance movie, Flashdance.

Since then, she's had bit-parts in hit TV shows such as Castle, Lie To Me and the not-so-hit TV show, The Chicago Code.

Anyway, she's making a big return pretty soon with new show, Venice.

Although it doesn't look like there's much in the way of LGBT regarding Venice, J. Beals will be back on your screens!

If you're a Twitter user, you may have spotted this tweet yesterday:

And that got the lesbians excited. They were speculating everything from an L Word spin-off to an L Word movie, but this is what we got.

Not gonna lie, I'm slightly disappointed it wasn't more The L Word orientated...

What about you? Are you disappointed Venice will have nothing to do with The L Word? Or are you just glad to see Beals back on screen?

Let us know in the comments!

VLEZ: Lesbian-Friendly Underwear

Fed up of all the main retailers carrying underwear "for women" that just isn't your style?

Do you find that when you go to the men's underwear section, it's just not the right fit for a female body?

Look no further!

VLEZ is an underwear line specifically catered to a lady-lovin' audience who are looking for some great underwear to properly fit their shape.

Cutely named 'baller', 'stud' and 'femme', their underwear is much more female-friendly and clearly more comfortable than some of the men's fit underwear you find in stores.

To find out more on these awesome boxers, go to https://vlezunderwear.com/ to browse the entire collection yourself!

E! Online's Top TV Couple Final: Doccubus vs. Brittana!

Okay, get how awesome this is: two same-sex female relationships in the top TV couples final!

SAY WHAT?!

We already made our bid on why you should vote for Doccubus (click HERE to read our reasons!)

So just a head's up, you only have until Wednesday to vote!

Click HERE to register your vote for Doccubus! for your favourite couple!

Havana Brown to Run the Dinah's White Party!

PALM SPRINGS, CA -  What do Lady GaGa, Ke$ha, Dev, Katy Perry, The Pussycat Dolls and Colbie Caillat (among others) have in common? Besides the fact that they’re all international mega-superstars, they’re also first and foremost Club Skirts alumni, and chances are, you’ve all discovered them first at The Dinah.

Carrying on its solid unique reputation for spotting and booking breakthrough artists on the verge of becoming music’s next new biggest sensation, The Dinah - the largest girl party music festival in the world - brings you this year again THE buzz-heavy breakthrough artist of the moment: HAVANA BROWN.

Currently rocking radio airwaves with her hit single "We Run The Night" featuring Pitbull, Havana Brown is one of those people who truly has it all- looks, personality, an Australian accent, and, not to be overlooked, an overwhelming amount of musical talent. Already an internationally known DJ, Brown has toured with an impressive array of artists, including Britney Spears, The Pussycat Dolls, Rihanna, Chris Brown, Enrique Iglesias, and Pitbull. 

 

Quickly rising pop star Havana Brown, who is taking the world by storm after an amazing live performance on America’s Got Talent, a fresh new EP "When the Lights Go Out", and the dance club hit ‘We Run the Night’ (ft Pitbull), will perform at Club Skirts Dinah Shore Weekend "White Party" on Friday, April 5 at Hotel Zoso in Palm Springs, CA.

Get your tickets now: www.TheDinah.com