The Hottest SEX TOY Around

SEX IS ABOUT UNION! 

THE HOTTEST MUST-HAVE PRODUCT EVERY WOMAN SHOULD OWN

THIS VALENTINE’S DAY

Want to make this Valentine’s Day one of the most memorable ever?  Forget about the boring hand lotion, mushy cards, flowers or yet another scented candle.

French designer Alice DeRock has created a new fashion sexy toy called The Union - a MUST-HAVE!

http://www.wetforher.com/lesbian-strapless-sex-toys/88-union-lesbian-strapless-sex-toy-black.html

The Union is a brand new cutting-edge product, 100 % silicone and phthalate free, a high-end designed product that responds to the needs of women. With a useful, elegant and chic French sense of style, it is uniquely creative. This harness free fun sex toy is bendable both sides with a clitoris stimulator. It includes a playful unique 3-speed rechargeable bullet for good vibrations! The easy to use bendable function enables one to adjust the toy’s angle to reach the pleasure point effortlessly, endlessly.

And last but not least, the sexy curving lines of The Union are conceptualized to naturally reach together the position desired for intense and mutual pleasure. It’s all about bringing out that hot feminine edge. And that exceptional ability to climax simultaneously as lovers makes this trendy product a MUST-HAVE! 

The super chic packaging will make you feel like you’re unwrapping an Apple product … because the union is the iPhone 6S of sex toys!

The Union is made by lesbians for lesbians, and most of all, from one woman to all women.

"Rules were made to be broken so break out of your comfort zone and ditch the good girl behavior to make your partner wish V-Day happened every day,” says Alice D.

Imagine how you could spend your V-Day?(no pun intended!)

And also for the playful ones who want to further explore their kinky side there is also:

WFT Sexy Time Box

For Valentine’s day try new aventures and have fun with the Sexy Time box by WetForHer.

 It includes the Lesbian Sex Kamasutra card game to unleash your fantasy or increase your libido.  WetForHer added products to enhance the game with the best lubricant called Uberlube in a travel size, a Sex Bomb balm clitoris arousal with a kissable formula that creates a tingling, invigorating sensation that heightens sensitivity for more enjoyment and an extra-arousing, tingling lip and nipple pleaser for women which is flavored for kissable fun and foreplay.

WET FOR HER Reveal How EXACTLY They Design Their Adult Toys

WET FOR HER UNVEILS NEWLY REDESIGNED WEBSITE GIVING

AN INTIMATE LOOK BEHIND THE DESIGNING PROCESS OF NEW TOYS!

Cyberspace - Sex toy empire, Wet for Her, has unveiled a newly redesigned website at  http://www.wetforher-design.com/

The launch of the new design represents the continuous efforts of CEO Alice Derock to elevate the premium sex toy experience both online and on mobile platforms as the website remains one of the most popular sex toys resources available. Derock's main contribution to the lesbian community remains a line of products designed specifically for lesbian sexual enjoyment, which has been lacking for years. 

Revamped and reenergized, the new site features enhanced format with more engaging and visually appealing content. The site now provides additional background on the skill, dedication and passion behind the creation, designs and drawings of sex toys.  

From an idea to reality, from drawings to prototyping and testing, WFH is proud to take you behind the scenes to show anyone curious to understand what the work of a sex toy designer looks like.

To commemorate the upgrade, while also kicking off the V-Day week, WFH is also profiling its #1 bestseller: THE FUSION, designed in Paris, France.

For costumers asking the question “what to give” next Valentine’s, WFH can help shoppers with their selection and make this V-Day one of the most memorable EVER by investing in their sex life. 

WFH’s products continue to take the market by storm.  Expanding to new territories, now for the first time ever, WHF has opened sales in Australia. Australian customers can now order goodies online and not only pay in Australian dollars but as well expect shipment to be effectuated in less than a week.

DeRock’s innovative Wet For Her product line has made a splash (pun intended) worldwide and recently received a nomination for an 'O’ Award from the American adult video industry trade magazine AVN (Adult Video News), which recognizes companies and products that raise the bar for the novelty and pleasure products industry.

While the release of Fifty Shades of Grey is expected to whip up demand for sex toys as straight couples ready to re-enact some of the kinky antics of Christian Grey and Anastasia Steele, in the lesbian scene, there has always been a clear demand for sex toys (for women by women).  

And Wet For Her has positioned itself as the ultimate authority in the field.

The leading lesbian-owned brand that not only speaks to the lesbian market but also has successfully come to represent lesbian sexuality in an elegant and classy way with tools of love from the land of love: France … ooh la la!

For More Information go to: http://www.wetforher-design.com/

TV FANGIRL MOMENT OF THE WEEK: Is Paily No More?

by Lauren W

Firstly, Happy New Year!

Secondly, I'm excited to tell you all about the new segment I dreamt up in my haze of watching too much television over the holidays.

"TV Fangirl Moment of the Week" is it's name, and, well, it's pretty self-explanatory what that entails. In short, I'm gonna tell you what I've been fan-girling the most over this week in television, and hopefully you'll let me know of some of your favourite television moments each week in the comments or on our Twitter!

So, here we go. My first ever TV fangirl moment of the week is...

Image Credit: dangerousdaydreamers via Tumblr

I'm sorry to kickstart this new segment with something so sad but... MY PAILY HEART IS IN PAIN, YOU GAYS.

This week in Pretty Little Liars' Winter Premiere, power "teenage" lesbian couple Emily Fields (Shay Mitchell) and Paige McCullers (Lindsey Shaw) said goodbye to one another in a pool full of tears. (Now, I'm not saying that I know Paige killed Mona (Janel Parrish) and that's why she's really leaving, but it's just a thought... Actually scrap that. I'm convinced she did it.)

Television has a habit of giving lesbian couples ridiculously heart-breaking airport scenes, (yes, this one was all too reminiscent of Calzona's airport break-up in season 7 of Grey's Anatomy), but somehow I am never prepared for it to happen over and over again.

Obviously I'm classing this moment as one to fan-girl over just because that final kiss goodbye sent a tingle to my otherwise cold and icy heart.

I'm also finding a little bit of solitude in the thought that this is probably not the last we've seen of Paige. She's a fan-favourite, and I think creator I. Marlene King has killed off far too many lesbians on this show already. Put it this way: at least Paige isn't dead. For now.

So, because this could be the last time we see Paige in a while, I've made this my first ever TV fan-girl moment of the week. My heart is bleeding.

Honourable Mention:

Image Credit: Valkubus via Tumblr

TAMSIN (Rachel Skarsten) AND BO (Anna Silk) HAD SEX ON LOST GIRL AND THEN HAD A MAJOR POST-COITAL HEART TO HEART AFTERWARDS. THANK YOU, TELEVISION GODS.

What did you fan-girl most over on television this week? 

Let me know in the comments below! (Or via our Twitter: http://twitter.com/allthingsles).

BIONIC STRAP-ON Paves New Paths to Sexual Fulfillment

DENVER --- Throughout the majority of history, the body a person is born with has dictated the limits of “his” or “her” sexual options. Orgasmatronics Inc. is using modern science to change that story.

The Ambrosia Vibe is a new type of strap-on dildo that acts as an active sexual organ rather than a static piece of silicone. When stimulated, the Ambrosia transmits a signal and delivers a corresponding vibration to the wearer.

One of the most liberating uses for technology in general is to free individuals from the constraints of their bodies, whether it’s letting us see things hundreds of miles away, fly, or live underwater. Our technology lets people not born with a biological penis have a richer experience as they play with sensation of their new ‘organ.’

– Dr. X Treme

For more information about this AMAZING new technology, click HERE! 

EDITORIAL: Letting Go: 3 Scenarios Where Love Just Ain’t Enough

by Bo Sellers

Sometimes I meet people who instantly speak to my soul.  It’s this exact scenario that led me to discover I actually prefer women. I love being in love and I love loving. Everyone you meet has a unique purpose for coming in to your life, but on your quest for true love, how do you recognize what it is? What kind of love are you genuinely feeling towards this person? Lover? Friend? Soulmate?  

My passion for loving is so intense I develop a bit of a word vomit when it comes to disclosing the “L” word. When I dated men, this was a quick way to weed out the ones incapable of handling my white girl crazy, but with women, my own comfort level has allowed others to break down their walls and go on adventures of the heart with me.

When I’m in love with someone, they’re the first person I think of in the morning, and the last one I think of before I fall asleep, and even in my dreams, they still never leave me. The excitement of such happenstance introductions sets off my over-analytical mind and I begin to rifle through every possible scenario of their impending significance.  

Once the initial intensity winds down, my mind becomes less-clouded and I'm able to better assess someone’s purpose in my life. But sometimes my emotions have landed me into situations where it wasn't until much later than I should have realized it takes more than love to sustain a relationship, or as Patti Smith once sang so honestly, “sometimes love just ain't enough.”  I've experienced three very different, and very real scenarios, where no matter how strongly I found myself loving someone, it could never be.

3.  You have nothing in common, except that you love each other - You've met someone. You shared an instant connection and decided to explore your infatuation further. It isn't until you've invested months, or even years in each other you've awoken to the fact, every time you say black, they say white. They’re not TRYING to be difficult. It’s not because they don’t love you. It’s just because, it’s who they are. From religion, to choice in music, to career aspirations, if your major deal-breakers aren't aligning, it’s best to appreciate the time you've shared and move on. While some differences should be celebrated, sacrificing your own passions to support your partners' is not necessary. You deserve to be with someone who encourages you to be the best YOU can be, not the you they’d like you to be.

2.  Mental or Physical Abuse - Love is amazing, but it should never come at the expense of your own well-being. Before dating women, I could more easily recognize abuse from a man, but for some reason I'm having a harder time with women. While I'm learning to draw the line between playful rough-housing and actual harm, I've decided to adapt a new rule of thumb. If something makes me uncomfortable, and I clearly communicate it to my partner, and they continue to engage in the aforementioned behavior, I'm done. No matter HOW much I think I love them. I've also noticed I'm more tolerant of such behaviors when I'm not loving myself as much as I should be. To quote The Perks of Being a Wallflower: “We accept the love we think we deserve.” Remember you deserve the best, simply because you are the best. The best you.

1.  She’s married - This one may seem like a no-brainer, but sometimes things happen and before you know it, you’re caught up in a whirlwind romance that feels more perfect than anything you've experienced before. None of the perfect moments or feelings take away her prior commitment to her family, and your own commitment to yourself and your individual happiness. You told yourself you would never date a married person, but now you’re in deeper than a diver searching for remains of the Titanic, and your love story is even more beautifully tragic than Rose and Jack’s. Yet, you must walk away. For her benefit, for her family’s benefit, and most importantly for your own. Perhaps you’ll meet again, in a different lifetime, but this one is obviously not your shared happily ever after.

Loving someone is a splendid journey, and I would much rather fall in love a 1,000 times than spend my life being afraid of it. Don’t ignore all self-preservation. You control your own happiness, so work on finding a balance between giving love away equal to that which you receive. Lesbian love is the greatest love I've ever experienced, but I'm still learning and discovering new boundaries along the way. I have to remember to keep my intuition clear to the signs that may show I need to let go of the less than perfect idea of love I'm holding on to, to find the love truly meant for me.

Editorial: “Everyone Loves A Lesbian”

by Bo Sellers

While attending the BCS National Championship game with my uncle and his fraternity brothers, I hoped we’d discuss the impending win of our shared alma mater, Florida State, while simultaneously engaging in drunken debauchery.  However, the boys club was a little more interested in trying to “understand” my sexuality.  I spent the entire pre-game answering a lot of pretty stereotypical questions about being a lesbian.

“What constitutes ‘sex’?”  “Who’s the ‘man’ of the relationship?” “Don’t you miss c*ck?” etc.  However, my fave question was a little deeper.  “Why did you “choose” to be gay?  No one else in the family is.”  I immediately launched into a programmed comedic-monologue of sorts I’ve performed many times over the last eight months.  “As far as YOU know.  No one else in the family tells dick-jokes for a living either.  It’s pretty safe to say I’m the black-sheep of the fam.  I won’t miss c*ck because my ex taught me you don’t NEED one, and if more women find this out men are going to be in big trouble.  I didn't “choose” to be gay, I was born this way because I’m an attention whore and everyone loves a lesbian, especially baby Jesus.”

While explaining to these Southern gentlemen multiple benefits of being a lesbian, it occurred to me they were less interested in logistics and more interested in developing material for their spank banks.  Amidst our discussion, I was able to develop a few pretty sound arguments for God’s condonation of all things lesbi and his blessing for as much sex as possible.

5.  Synced Periods - If God wanted to hinder lesbian relationships, he probably wouldn’t have designed women to have concurring periods with the lady friends they spend the most time with.  Allowing for just as much sex, if not more, than straight relationships, obvi God appreciates the love between lesbis.  Deductively, it could also be argued that God loves gay boys even a little more because they’re relationships are entirely period-free.

4.  Sharing is Caring -  Chicks can share a restroom stall without raising suspicion to sexual foreplay, which is totes a benefit for lesbi relationships.  Once again, allowing for optimal sexy time since you can literally eff whenever and wherever there’s a bathroom.  Even if you aren't down for bathroom sex, when you go home with a lady you can borrow some clothes in the AM to make your journey home without looking like a sloppy-shacking-whore on your walk of shame.  

Which segues nicely to my next argument…

3.  We can eff from any angle - Whether you like being bent over couches, effed against walls, or playing with each other’s poonahnahs parked in front of a 7-11, where there’s a will, there are a gazillion ways to get your lady friend off from any position without having to worry if your partner’s “dick” is gonna slip out from an awkward position.  

2.  The tongue is one of the strongest muscles in the human body - I’ve drank way too much coffee today to focus on researching the validity of this statement, but my tongue absolutely has more stamina than any other muscle I’ve ever used.  If vaginas were a canvas, the tongue would be the sturdy brush that paints the most brilliant lines, while putting a “p” in a “v” more closely resembles hammering a giant bolt into a birthday cake when it fits better with a steel bridge.  Which would totes shred the cake and require more clean-up.  That’s why rainbows are so effing fab.  Obvi it’s God’s artistry from licking the earth’s vagina.

1.  Two Moms - Anyone who’s ever had a, even half decent, mother wouldn’t object to having two.  Moms are the best.  Not to knock dad’s, but I was raised by a single mom and it sure would’ve been nice to have a spare nearby after she died.  Women are naturally more compassionate.  Lesbian relationships not only provide super loving families, but can take turns stretching out their bodies to shoot babies from their poonahnahs.

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If baby Jesus didn’t love lesbians, he sure wouldn’t make being one so effing convenient.  He’d probably make lesbianism more like trying to find parking in Los Angeles, impossible and resulting in a ticket that can only be cleared by delivering your first born in a gold-plated onesie.  Next time people express interest in my sexuality, I’ll just direct them to this article with a flip of my hair and a snarky “kthanksBYYYYYYYE, I’ve got p*ssy to lick.”

Lesbian Advice #7: Can I Be In Love With An Older Woman?

Disclaimer: This advice column is completely confidential - all questions are anonymous and the author will never reveal an inquirer's identity. All Things Lesbian and its contributors are not responsible for the personal interpretation of any advice given. Advice written here is the opinion and suggestion of the author, and the decision on whether to take said advice is completely down to the individual reader. We're not professionals - we're simply here trying to make things a little easier for you. Enjoy!

Question 1: Can I love a woman 30 years my senior?

Q: Hi, I found your blog and I really want a second opinion from you.

Back in 2006, I started playing soccer. Ever since I saw my soccer coach for the first time I have not been able to get her out of my head! 7 years later and still she's my "platonic" love, but I think it's more than that because I have feelings for her. It's out of this world how my world turns round whenever I'm near her.

She's not my coach anymore, she's my team mate, and oh! Did I mention she was 50 years old? I'm 19! And I'm head over heels for her. She drives me insane. I would just like to know if you think it's just puppy love or if I could honestly have feelings for her.

- L

A: There are a lot of factors here. Perhaps you do have feelings for this woman. We've all had a crush on a teacher. We've all had a crush on Jennifer Beals and she's 49!

I'm not one to say that age really matters though. I think you can fall in love with someone no matter their age... but I don't think that's the problem here. What would worry me if I were in this situation would be whether or not I should act on my feelings.

Teachers and coaches are all different about where they stand on dating students and dating former students. As far as I'm aware, there is nothing specifically illegal about dating a former teacher. However, personal morals and ethics differ greatly from person to person.

I would say that if you really think you like this woman, you should try hitting on her. But the best thing to do if she rejects you is not take it personally. You have to respect that this woman may feel that this would violate her personal code of ethics. Do not attempt to persuade and coerce. And if rejection is what you're hit with, deal with it appropriately. Good luck!


Question 2: How can I get through to my ex?

Q: Where to start? I moved to ex's last city in 1998. We continued to have a relationship for about 10 years. But then things got real bad for me. I shut everyone out including my ex. I went away, got my life together, and came back to try and get her back.

I started writing her and she received my mail for about 7 months. She would not talk to me. Recently I saw her and she stared until I made eye contact. Then she rolled her eyes and even more recently closed the PO Box I was using to write to her. She's had that PO Box since 1997.

Did I mention that I used to be a jerk? But I apologized and I want to show her that I'm a different person. Why not just write or call to say stop? Why the extreme? My therapist thinks it's because she's still in love with me but doesn't know what to do about it. What do you think?

- Confused!

A: Okay, I gotta be real blunt here. Just cut it out and move on.

If this woman wanted to speak to you, she would. There are probably underlying reasons of why she doesn't reply. Maybe all she can remember is one particular bad incident that you've completely forgotten about. Maybe she vowed to cut you out of her life when you left all those years ago. Whatever it is, it's time to move on.

Rather than focusing on making her see the new you, teach someone else about what a great person you are now. Hopefully your ex will have accepted your apology and you can move on to new things. It's never healthy to fight for something you probably won't realistically get (I speak from personal experience!) I know that sounds quite brutal, but it's 100% true from what I have seen myself.

Remember that there are always bigger and brighter things just around the corner! Good luck!

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LGBT-Web Series "The 3 Bits" Gets a Kickstart

Now we have been supportive of this web series since it started. Because it's awesome. (Click HERE and HERE and HERE. Proof!)

Now they already made 9 episodes, and that was great. But they gotta make 9 more to finish the season AND THEY NEED YOUR HELP!

They are just over half way to getting to their $50,000 goal, but don't worry, you can donate as little as $1. That's right.

TimeOut NY gave the series an awesome review just last week.

Need more persuading? Click HERE and see a video pledge from one of the main characters from the series and, we're assuming, the director/producer.

You can also click HERE to donate to the project and HERE to see the episodes that have already aired!

What are you waiting for?!

Editorial: Bye-Bye Bad Habits

by Bo Sellers

This past September I was featured on a weight-loss show called “My Big Fat Revenge.” Now,50 pounds lighter, in body and mind, I've lost the weight and found myself. When my soul awoke to my sexuality, it was as if my mind, also, awoke for the first time. Everything I encounter comes with a fresh curiosity, that only previously existed within societal constraints keeping my imagination at bay. My new sense of self has gifted me more patience, yet I'm still searching for balance in understanding things from the outside looking in so I'm working on cutting the fat in other areas of my life as well.

1.  Bye-bye judging books by their covers. - Before I realized I was gay, I would quickly jump to conclusions about people, taking them merely at face-value. I logically knew people were more than what I saw on the surface, but there was a barrier within me sending my mind directly to judgement. With my new open-mind, I'm able to take time to truly appreciate everyone’s different forms of expression. You really can find the good in ANYone if you look hard enough, some you may have to look harder than others, but it’s there. It’s always there. If I find myself struggling to appreciate anyone's personality, I imagine them naked and crying over a pile of raw beef, if nothing else I'm greeted with a smile from proposed nudity.  

2.  Bye-bye double-standards. - I need to remember just because I know I'm gay now doesn't mean the whole world does. I find myself frustrated when men hit on me to the point I've considered a style makeover. But I love my long hair and 6 inch heels too much to be anything but a lipstick lezBO. But seriously, how are the men supposed to know I prefer poohnahnah? And shouldn't I be flattered either way? I used to look at every man I was attracted to and assume he was straight, because that’s what I wanted him to be. I shouldn't chastise a man for doing the exact thing I used to, and still sometimes do. Even now, I look at every woman I'm attracted to and assume she’s gay because that’s what I want her to be. Although, the women I'm attracted to do tend to have more masculine qualities. It takes a real woman to be man enough for me.

3.  Bye-bye fear. - By the age of 14 I found myself at a significant crossroads. I had sworn off salad from a near-death choking accident as a toddler. Until one day, salad was the only food available and I was forced to face my fear or go hungry. Any inner-fat-girl can tell you, the latter was not an option. I'm glad I had to face my salad fear because otherwise I wouldn't have discovered a whole new world of leafy flavor I’d been missing out on. Women are my favorite entrée and I refuse to be intimidated by them any more. I am going to be fearless in love. I’ll probably end up shot through the heart a time or two, but no one can say I didn't try. Let the cheesy 80's courting begin.

I know my new skills won’t be mastered overnight, but I also know a life free of judgement, double-standards and fear can lead to nothing but happiness and pleasure. Even if it takes my entire lifetime to perfect one of them, it’s a journey worth taking. Appreciating everyone I meet allows me to better appreciate myself, and self-appreciation is key to loving and being loved. 

Lesbian Advice #6: How Do You Avoid Lesbian Drama?

Disclaimer: This advice column is completely confidential - all questions are anonymous and the author will never reveal an inquirer's identity. All Things Lesbian and its contributors are not responsible for the personal interpretation of any advice given. Advice written here is the opinion and suggestion of the author, and the decision on whether to take said advice is completely down to the individual reader. We're not professionals - we're simply here trying to make things a little easier for you. Enjoy!

Question 1: Does My Boyfriend Really Understand What It Means To Be Bisexual?

Q: I've been dating a guy for over a year and a half, and within that time I have come to terms with my bisexuality. He is supportive of me but I'm never sure if he understands the extremity of this self-discovery. We have never been fully compatible but we enjoy each other's company; I just don't know what to do in this situation. (I have asked my friends but they don't really have any concept of the coming out process.) Any advice would be GREATLY appreciated.

- H

A: This question sounds a little ambiguous to me. Are you asking how you can help your boyfriend to understand what a big deal this is to you? Or are you questioning whether you are happy with him?

Let's answer both sides of the question and see if that helps.

If you're simply wanting to help him understand the extremity of your new found identity, there is no other way than to sit down and really talk to him about it. And I mean TALK. Get everything off your chest. Don't avoid little details because you don't think they're important. In the end if he doesn't really get it, does it really matter that much in the grand scheme of things? I'd suggest that what is most important is that you are comfortable with yourself. You need to fully come to terms with things such as your sexual orientation in order to even slightly help others to understand. Start off with really thinking about what being bisexual means to you.

In regards to questioning how right you are for each other, think about how you feel about him. Do you think about him when you close your eyes above all other people in the world? You say you're not fully compatible but you enjoy each other's company. Think about whether or not this relationship feels like it would be better as just friends to you. Of course this is going to be hard - you've spent over a year of your life by his side! - but wouldn't you rather be 100% happy with who you choose to be with, male or female?

Hopefully some of these tips will help you come to a proper conclusion. Good luck!

Question 2: LESBIAN DRAMA!

Q: How do you avoid lesbian drama?

- @TheC_Spot via Twitter

A: If any lesbian knew the sure-fire answer to this question, I'm pretty sure they'd be labelled a Goddess.

Honestly, whether you're a lesbian or not you're going to be hit by drama once in a while. The only way to avoid it completely for your entire life is to become a hermit with no friends.

However, there have been a series of things I've attempted to do in the past that seem to work pretty well. 

Firstly, don't pick sides. Ever! If two of your friends try and drag you into their argument, simply stay out of it, even if you do have an opinion. Be supportive to both friends, but never get personally involved. That's my main rule.

Secondly, stop bitching! If you have a problem with someone, arrange to talk to them. TALKING IS THE BEST MEDICINE. Don't back stab your former girlfriend because of something she did. Let her know that she has upset you TO HER FACE. Everyone can respect someone that stands up and is honest about their feelings. No one likes a bitch. It's that simple.

Again, there is no way to avoid drama. I'm sure you all know that straight people, gay men, bisexuals, pansexuals, HUMANS... they all have drama too! It's unavoidable. But hopefully the things mentioned above will help you at some point in your life.

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Lesbians on YouTube: What Do Lesbians Think About THREESOMES?

Remember a couple of weeks back when we told you about lesbian YouTuber, Arielle Scarcella? (Click HERE if you don't!)

Well, being as professional as usual, Arielle has come up with yet another awesome topic for you to think about/giggle at: What Do Lesbians Think About Threesomes?

Check it out right here!

And not to worry, that's just one side of the story.

Ever wondered what gay men think about threesomes? Check out how their stories compare by watching the counterpart to Arielle's video right here, hosted by the lovely Matthew Lush, a.k.a. Gay God.

What do you think about threesomes? Would you ever venture there?

Let us know in the comments!

Editorial: Choose Love

by Bo Sellers

Realizing I was a lesbian a short six months ago, I’m still dealing with the repercussions of  coming out. Technically, I was never closeted because as soon as I realized I was gay, I felt a weight off my shoulders and was overwhelmed with joy, so I began telling my closest friends and family members. About two months ago I came out publicly on Instagram. Granted it’s not the most traditional approach to updating people of your sexuality, but judging from the various conversations I've had with friends and family over the last few months, there really is no right way or right time...

I’ve always done things the best way I know how, which is through humor. I’ve laughed with a lot of people about my revelation, making jokes to enable a certain level of comfort for everyone privy to my newfound sense of self. But the truth is, it’s not a joke and I refuse to laugh at it any longer.

I’m gay.

When I first came out, I told people I was “bi but preferred women.” I’ve realized now it was a safety-net I allowed myself. Still coming to terms with my own preferences, I wasn’t entirely sure what I was feeling, but since most people need a label to understand something, I gave them one.

It’s been extremely difficult to handle everyone’s reactions. I’m crying about it much more than I ever imagined, but coming from super conservative southern foots, with multiple pastors in my family, it’s definitely going to be an uphill battle. It hurts to hear my love referred to as a “sin” or a “phase.” I’m also learning that people are discussing it behind my back, which is interesting as no one will bring it up in conversation with me unless I do. I never thought I would hear my own sister say “I don’t know if I’d ever come to your wedding. I can’t condone it” has been one of the biggest smacks in the face.

This wasn’t the topic I planned on discussing for my first article on “All Things Lesbian,” but it’s important to me, and if it helps even one other person feel less alone with their own struggle, than I’ve accomplished my goal.

I can’t broach this topic without also mentioning the extreme support I’m receiving from old and new friends I never expected to be there for me. I’m choosing to focus on the positive people in my life and remind myself how blessed I am for them.

Although we may feel like it at times, we aren't alone in this world. We are all highly connected and need to continue to love and support one another.  Fear and hate are no matches for love. By loving everyone, even in my darkest moments, I hope to prove life is worth living and all what we choose it to be.  

Choose happiness. Choose love.

Lesbian Advice #5: How Do I Come Out To My Parents?

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Question 1: Coming Out.

Q: I'm only 14 years old, but I'm struggling with coming out to my parents. Any advice on how to do this?

- Anonymous

A: Many of us (the LGBTQ crowd, that is), have had experience with this. The honest truth is, there's no correct answer. But don't let that scare you!

Coming out to your parents can be one of the most important things you'll ever have to do. Others live their entire lives without telling anyone except their close friends. One thing is obvious: most people regard their parents' opinion as valuable, hence why people see coming out to them as something they need to do right.

Sometimes, coming out to your parents can be easy.

For example, a relative of mine was once wearing a pin which read "Friend of Dorothy". (Subtle, right?) Anyway, once his Father saw the accessory, this is how the conversation went:

Father: Does that mean you're gay?
Relative: Yes, can I go in the bath now?

That was genuinely the entire conversation. I kid you not, some parents will take it as lightly as that. Others, however, will react differently. My experience with coming out to my parents, for instance, was not so plain sailing. But at the end of the day, your parents will still love you.

No matter what their religious beliefs, political background, personal upbringing, etc., your parents will love you even if your sexuality is hard for them to understand. And anyway, at the end of the day, it's your own happiness that really matters.

I'd suggest dropping subtle hints if you're not entirely comfortable with just telling them flat out. Replace that Channing Tatum poster on your bedroom wall with a picture of your favourite lady. If you're feeling bold, stick a pride flag up there. Ask them in conversation what they think about the debate on gay marriage.

My one main piece of advice would be to remember this: it gets better. It's a cliché  but it's so true. Even if they take it badly, one day you will be free to leave the restraints of your home and socialize with other like-minded people. Don't worry, you're not stuck there forever.

And who knows? Maybe your parents have already taken the hint!

Question 2: Why Does She Make Me Feel Invisible?

Q: I have been with my girlfriend for three years. We seem to fight a lot. We are going to try living apart and dating. But I'm wondering a couple of things... When we meet her friends, people she knows, or anyone we talk to, she: 1) Doesn't introduce me. And 2) Will keep standing between me and the people she talks to. It makes me feel really sad and invisible. Why does she do that?

 - C

A: This one hits home pretty hard for me too, actually.

I was once in a relationship with a girl who tried to shield me away from the people she spoke to. However, it turned out in this instance that she was just over-protective. Maybe your girlfriend is the same. Some people can feel threatened and believe that people will find you more interesting or attractive when compared to them.

However, there are a multitude of reasons that could be causing her to keep you at a distance. 

The only way to get these questions answered is to ask her directly. I understand that this may be hard for you, but if you let her know that it upsets you, maybe she'll back off a little. This sounds like something you can solve easily if you only let her know about how you feel.

Talking things out is really underrated. If only someone had told George Bush Jr. that... But I digress.

Good luck!

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Lesbian Web Series - The 3 Bits (Episode 3)

Everyone loves a good web series. Especially when there are cute lesbians involved, right?

Right here on All Things Lesbian, you can watch episode three of The 3 Bits, which focuses on Roman, a badass lesbian with some troubles...

In this episode, Roman freaks out when she realizes she's never had a good look at her girlfriend's vagina. What is she hiding? And how can Roman get a good look without seeming like a total dick?

What do you think? Let us know in the comments!